Hello my sweets. I hope you all had a lovely week and are as excited as I am for the weekend.
Today’s post is inspired by a conversation that I was having with a good friend of mine. We were talking about how, unfortunately, as we grow up a lot of what people say to us shape our lives in some way – big or small. Words are powerful. I’ve always believed that. Here are some things that I think you should never say to anyone.
“I’m not being rude, but..”
Let’s just get this one out of the way. Every time I’ve heard this phrase, 99.9% of the time it’s followed by something rude. It would almost be less offensive if you just said the rude thing, without having to preface it. Now, I am an advocate for sharing your emotions and confronting someone about how you feel, but you do have a filter, you can read a room, read a situation and know when to say what. Never preface something rude with that. Or better, just try not to say something rude at all.
“You’re too thin/round/muscular/lanky/fat/ or anything else you think you have to say about someone else body”
I can’t even believe that I have to write this. This should be a no brainer. Keep your mouth shut if you feel you have to comment on someone else’s lifestyle, body unless they ask you. Even if they ask you, let’s go back to the whole internal filter thing, you have one – don’t just rattle off things that can come across as insensitive. Be kind, think before you speak and don’t comment one anyone’s physical appearance.
“You can’t do it, let me”
I’ve had this said to me multiple times before, and I can assure you the only thing that you think of when someone says this to you is “they think i’m not capable enough, they think I’m stupid” I don’t know about you but I never want to ever make someone feel that way. So even if you know you can do something, quicker, or faster, don’t take away the opportunity for someone to learn.
“So how much do you make”
I can’t believe the amount of people I have come across who have asked me this question. I don’t think this is ever okay to ask, if and when you feel an urge to ask this, I do think there’s a more respectful way to do so. Honestly, if I were you, I just wouldn’t I don’t think that any of your business.
“Are you pregnant”
I made the mistake of asking my grade 4 teacher this, I guess it was half a mistake because she actually was pregnant, but I remember coming home and telling my mom and she got mad at me for being insensitive..even if I was 9 she made it clear it was never okay to ask that. Again, unless this is your sister or a very very close family friend it’s never okay to ask this.
“When are you having more babies”
AGAIN. None of your business. You have no idea what their health conditions are, you have no idea if they can even have more kids, let alone if they want more kids. Why would anyone ever think this is okay to ask anyone. It’s hurtful and can be a trigger for so many women who might not be able to conceive again.
“If you really loved me you would ________”
This is to all my people in relationships, or really close friendships. Giving someone an ultimatum is never okay. You should never have to say to someone “if you love me, you’ll do this that or the other”. If you’re with someone who does this in a non-joking way MOST OF THE TIME. Leave them, it’s not okay and not worth it to be with someone who makes you feel like your love is something that comes with a price.
I hope you enjoyed this post. I hope something on here got you thinking. Let me know if there’s a phrase that you have been taught to not say to someone?
As always I hope you are all well, safe and healthy. Sending all my love always
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